Boomer Grandparents

Both my parents and my husbands parents are making us do early Christmases between their Mexico trips. This is my sons 1st Christmas. #boomers

I have so many questions. My parents are technically just over the hump; they're a year or two older than the boomers. My wife's parents are boomers. Granted, both our parents had us pretty young, and we had kids pretty young, but... what?! You've got Boomer parents and in-laws and have a baby less than a year old? I have just missed being boomer parents and boomer in-laws, and I have grandkids older than that. What the devil have you been waiting for?

Secondly; what do you mean they're "making" you do Christmas early? How about just do Christmas, tell them they're invited, but if they're out of town, they miss out, we're going on without you. How do your boomer parents make you do much of anything, unless you're still financially dependent on them? We've done plenty of Christmases on our own when we had younger kids and we'd moved out of state. In fact, that was our default assumption. 

For what it's worth, I'm not doing Christmas with my grandkids this year either, because my daughter and her husband who don't have kids yet, and my other sons (and one of their wives) are coming instead to our house and my son who has three kids hates traveling. He's not coming until the summer. He's also started a new job this year, and doesn't have a lot of time off. And we go to visit him plenty. Technically, he lives in our house out of state that we vacated but let him stay in with his family. Just because you don't do every holiday together, that's not necessarily a bad thing. I have no reason to feel neglectful or that we don't do enough for them.

So, yeah... just do your own thing, don't sweat it, don't try to guilt trip them for having other plans, don't get bullied into doing something you don't want to do, and just because you're old and only have one little baby, don't expect everyone else to dote on them the same as you do. I have four kids, three (and a half) grandkids, and I expect to have many more. I can't spend every Christmas with all of them. My parents had five kids and eighteen grandkids. My in-laws had five kids and eighteen grandkids too (by pure coincidence). I'm not quite sure what I'm supposed to get out of this little anecdote above. That boomer grandparents are the worst? Or that Gen-Y or older Millennial (or whatever) parents are?